They also face expectations in regard to their future aspirations.
Often, we men can bring an analytical approach to help clarify the picture and guide them along. Guidance really is the ultimate goal of discipline.
It was late on a Friday and mom was at a fashion show at the Pacific Design Center while I was on the set of The West Wing, a show you might watch one day with your friends and think, “Now I understand why I have to use ten words when one would do the trick.” Mom called me from her car and said she was going home—her stomach was really hurting—and I left the set to go meet at her at the house.
When I got home she was lying in bed in a lot of pain. “It comes in a big wave and then goes away.” Mom was giving a pretty good description of a contraction. Katz had just delivered another baby and was already there.
I just ignored him and was saying to myself “keep rolling because I am not even checking for you.” My daughter looked at me with a shocked face like “MOM” I told her I was sorry but told her I was not looking for someone who plays loud music, cornrows,saggy jeans and a white tee.
How do I talk to her and let her know about them with out bashing?
It’s very hard to find one good one in a barrel of bad ones.
Thanks for your time and for advice is appreciated.Many fathers (particularly of teen girls) assume they have little influence over their daughters—certainly less influence than their daughters’ peers or pop culture—and think their daughters need to figure out life on their own.But your daughter faces a world markedly different from the one you did growing up: it’s less friendly, morally unmoored, and even outright dangerous.I have listened to fourteen-year-old girls tell me they have to provide sex acts that disgust them in order to keep their boyfriends. Everything about them changes: their eyes, their mouths, their gestures, their body language. They hope for your attention, and they wait for it in frustration—or in despair.I’ve watched girls drop off varsity tennis teams, flunk out of school, and carve initials or tattoo cult figures onto their bodies—all to see if their dads will notice. Daughters are never lukewarm in the presence of their fathers. They need a gesture of approval, a nod of encouragement, or even simple eye contact to let them know you care and are willing to help. If you fully understood just how profoundly you can influence your daughter’s life, you would be overwhelmed. It’s something that I have been concerned with for a while and since you have daughters I thought I would bring this question to you.