Singles can experience intimate satisfaction even though they are not engaging in sex, which God designed to be within the context of marriage, says Christian author Hafeez Baoku.
Baoku, author of "Sex, God, and the Single Life," explains that singles oftentimes wrestle with the idea of sex only to end up frustrated because they focus on what they do not have instead of placing their efforts on fulfilling other aspects of their lives."Singleness shouldn't be a waiting period for superman, it's about enjoying your life, God and relationships with others.
I Thessalonians 4:3-5 tells us that it is God's will that we should "avoid sexual immorality" and that each of us should learn to control his or her own body "in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen who do not know God." That's the short and simple answer to your question.
In romantic relationships, the goal is to communicate in a loving, giving manner—to be affectionate.Before continuing with this article, please review the preamble included at the beginning of this series, "Biblical Dating: How It's Different From Modern Dating." * * * PART 5: Navigating the Early Stages of a Relationship » My last article, "Biblical Dating: Navigating the Early Stages of a Relationship," sought to apply some of the principles we've discussed in this series to the early stages of a dating relationship.He said he knows firsthand the difficulties that come along with remaining celibate since he has struggled with it following years of being sexually active and addicted to pornography.He notes that when singles engage in "selfish sex" their acts portray their disregard for God's plan for their life and it shows that they do not trust Him or care about His purpose for sex.” Males and females are attracted to one another—it’s a natural, healthy part of life to desire a relationship with members of the complementary sex.
Some people hold that everything up to a certain point is healthy and everything beyond that point is “too far.” While there are some clear boundaries, every couple must evaluate for themselves what is holy and healthy in regard to their physical intimacy.
When it comes to physical expressions of affection before marriage, how far is "too far"?
My boyfriend and I are struggling in this area and wondering where to draw the line.
Making a decision on the fly with no forethought is a recipe for going too far. Is it in our best interest to engage in these practices prior to marriage? For those who have adopted the standards of behavior endorsed by today’s entertainment industry, these are stupid questions.
In fact, they are non-questions—meaning they just aren’t asked.
When it comes to intimacy, the million-dollar question is "How far is too far?