“I could have dealt with a gambling addiction or alcoholism – anything but this,” Rachel confirms.
Like most partners, she initially didn’t buy into the concept of sex addiction (“it sounded like a pretty weak excuse for an affair”) and even when she did start to believe that her husband’s behaviour was compulsive, her friends didn’t (“they’d look at me in despair, asking since when had sexual desire became a monster that can’t be controlled”), leaving her feeling isolated.
“So when he sat me down one day to tell me he was a sex addict, I actually laughed – although I soon stopped when he disclosed night upon night of watching pornography for hours on end and numerous short-lived affairs.
My life fell apart.” Sex addiction hurts partners in a way that no other addiction can, says Paula Hall, who has written a book on the subject.
Quirky Anna undergoes a makeover to try to fit in but fails miserably.
Caitlin visits her family in Calgary to escape thoughts of her breakup with the cheating Butterhead.
The widespread availability of Internet pornography has made it possible for millions of people to get sexual gratification easily, frequently, and without public attention.
But because we so widely associate attraction to pornography with men, and because Internet pornography in general is a relatively recent phenomenon, there’s been very little scrutiny, either in academic research or the popular media, on women who become addicted to cybersex.Caitlin hooks up with mean girl Vicky’s ex-boyfriend Butterhead and suffers the consequences.Free spirit Anna moves back to the strange world of the rez.To be fair on Rachel’s friends, there is some debate about whether the term sex addiction is scientifically accurate, but the field of addiction is changing fast and emphasis is shifting from the substance to the psychological symptoms of addiction.The NHS has a website page dedicated to sex addiction.Technically, cybersex is defined as sexually motivated behavior involving the Internet.